Relationship problems need advice

sorry again bro you need to let her go it will be hard as hell at first but by the sound of things you will be happier in the end......plus your going to school and get to meet chicks that dig working on cars

I know man. I wish she liked working on cars. The male students at a nearby college to the Wyotech campus in PA hate the Wyotech students because all the girls from that college date the Wyotech guys.

Well they just left to go stay with her aunt. I'm very upset. I miss my little girl. I think she finally got the picture about me really not being happy when I told her that I'm tired of arguing all the time and our personality differences are pretty serious.

hey dude.. ok .. i dont know you and you dont know me.. but heres the scoop..im 27 have a 6 year old daughter.. i love to death.. anyhow 5 years ago her mom and i didn see eye to eye.. ( not even close to the shit your going through.. your a fuckin trooper for hangin in this long) there were all kindsa things .. like trucks arent safe for kids.. and i respected that till i saw my daughter in her new bfs truck... pushed my buttons.. what i did was.. i personally couldnt take the lies and the bs from her any more .. i was so un happy where i lived and the only reason i was there was for my daughter.. .. now.. the hardest thing i ever did was move almost across the country.. yes i get to see my daughter.. as often as i want no.. but when i lived 2 blocks away from them i didnt see her often enough anyhow.. heres the deal...... your daughter will be much happier with a happy dad.. kids are not stupid.. i know my daughter and i will have our time together.. will it be when she is older .. yes.. her mom controls her right now.. but her mother is also a great mom.. ( her new bf i could drop kick but hwatever)... so do it for you.. you need to be mentally healthy before you can even concider caring for your daughter ....

p.s. congrates on being a man.... some times our lives dont go as we thought they would.. its all about how you pick yourself back up bro...anyways.. best of luck.... you know we will always be here for ya

steve

You know you post actually picked me up alot from how I was before I read it. I've had a shitty day.

I know I don't have it as bad as some people do in relationships, but it's still too much shit to handle. Like I've said my daughters mother is an AMAZING mother and that's the reason I'm probably not gonna fight for full custody of her. Simply because I couldn't take her away from her own momma. Her mom means the whole world to her. I picture it ending up with some sort of joint custody, but you never know. She said today before she left that she still wants me in Aubreys life and that made me happy because it's the exact opposite of what I expected. She claims we're not getting along because we live in a shitty little town but that reminds me of the guy that posted the "Divorce Sucks" thread (forgot his name) where him and his wife tried moving to a bigger place to solve things but it didn't work. And regardless of where you are, if you can't get along one place, it still just won't work in any other place either, there's no easy fix to these situations except separating. I'm honestly glad we didn't jump the gun and get married because that'd be a whole other ordeal.

I honestly was only in it for my daughter, I didn't want to miss the opportunity of having my own little girl and it just didn't work out that way, I hate it but you can only force things like that for so long.

She always complains about having such a hard time with going to school and working (I haven't been able to work lately because I don't have my license and we didn't have a close babysitter). She works a part time job at a hotel and goes to college from 6-9 Mondays thru Wednesdays. She thinks she's got it hard. When I start at Wyotech in October I'll be going to class from 4:00 PM to 1:30 AM. I'll be having it hard enough without them there.

I feel like shit because she doesn't have a vehicle of her own... and my Saab that she used to drive is just sitting in the driveway, but it's not hers and my dad is tired of completely supporting her. Her parents are worthless pieces of shit. Gamblers and alcoholics, I know that has something to do with all of this but I shouldn't be the victim of her problems. I've told her to try and get mental help plenty of times and I even offered to call for her if she found a solution but she didn't do it and I just won't have it anymore.

One of the main reasons I didn't let her take the Saab is one, my dad pays the insurance on it and if something fucked up on it and stranded them somewhere (Saabs are popular for that) it would be worse than her not having a vehicle, and two her aunts boyfriend is the type that will try and fuck with your stuff, and I'd hate to have to kill over a car.

She thinks I'm just being selfish and trying to make it easier on myself but that's not it. I'm trying to make it easier on everyone. Aubrey has been very upset when Denise and I were around each other lately because she can tell we're not happy, and I am not going to put my little angel through that shit for no fucking woman. The only thing I'm trying to simplify is emotions, plain and true.

I'm very glad I am able to openly post about this stuff on here without getting made fun of. I've never felt so comfortable on a forum before. Thank you guys so much.


Next steps are getting a truck and then quitting smoking cigarettes.

hi this is Justins girlfriend... he just read me this forum... and i am responding back...


GET OUT NOW!! if you dont, things will get worse. 1st and formost you need to make sure that you have contact with your daughter and that you don't lose her. your gf sounds out of control. i know that there are a lot of things i don't like that my bf does but if she cant be neutral and understanding then she is not the one for you. when you are in a relationship you need be understanding and there for one another. of course you guys are going to have difference but that doesnt give her the right to be that way towards you. no one has that right. hun you need to get out immediately otherwise you two will end up in an even greater detriment. you could end up losing rights to see your daughter or your rights at all. please hear this from a girls side that she is NOT right for you... she is hurting you and taking advantage of you. she thinks your weak and thats part of the reason why she controls you... she doesnt think you will do anything about it. you need to be strong and leave. i know it will probably be one of the hardest things but trust me you will get over it and be happier. it is what will be best. i think with you going away to school will be even better. you CAN focus and do great. good luck with everything and i really hope that this works out for you. in the end you will do whats in your heart.


feel free to contuct us at anytime. we are standing behind you! best of luck.

Morgan and Justin

Thanks.

I know she does think I am weak but I am not (not saying you said that either). I'm having a very very hard time but if it's what I have to do so that it doesn't damage my daughter then so be it.

I just hate that leaving her has put her in such a shitty situation with having no vehicle and having to get her mail changed and all that crap. I still care about her very much but I just cannot be with her.

EDIT: Now she just asked me if we are still together or not and I said no and she said "Now you can see her every other weekend."

I wish my wife was violent and controlling. THAT would mean if she can control my 350 lb ass, that less shit I gotta carry, open, and do for her. LMAO.


But seriously. Counseling. That's the only solution I can come up with.

hay bro if you are'nt happy run cuz there are lots of hot girls at shows that love kids so i vote grab the kid and run

Haha, just grab the kid and run! LOL!

Next think you know you'll see him on CNN with an amber alert!

Yea, and that guy you were talking about was speedcult!

He was thinking about moving to my city, but I PM'ed him one day and he never responded! I hope that guy is doing okay and he did'nt do something stupid!


Hey man, my brother was your age when he met his wife. She was a controlling woman and violent and doing meth and all sorts of crap. Took him for granted in every way possible and mentally abused the crap out of him.

Made him so weak to the point he had no backbone to even care anymore. That and he just gave up!

Now, things are'nt so bad for him and all. They are getting along more now and whatnot, but its not the best. She still does'nt wanna do jack squat and get a free ride from him!

But nonetheless, hes got his 5 kids now and a witch of a wife.

You can either be like my brother and take it in the ass with a jar of vaseline or GET OUT!

I would choose the latter, but I choose who I bone, lol! No offense to you. Not blaming you on that one, lol. Just throwing it out there, haha!