Relationship problems need advice

Well to start off, as some of you know, I'm 17, my girlfriend just turned 19 and we have a near 1 year old daughter. The problem is, my girlfriend is extremely controlling. She hates when I watch stuff about cars on tv, she hates when I get on forums, blah blah you get the picture. I am starting school at Wyotech in Blairsville Pennsylvania in October (actually Sept 29th) and she said she doesn't really want to go. I don't mind her not going at all because I'll be able to do better in class (10 hour night classes), but the shitty part is that I'll dearly miss my daughter Aubrey, she is my WHOLE world.


The girlfriend also gets violent on occasion. Example: You know how they say if you're gonna marry a woman, look at her mother for a glimpse at how she will similarly turn out, well her mom is a gambling, whining, con-artist and I told her that I didn't want to be with her if she turned out like her mother and she decided it would be okay to choke me and hold me down on the bed. I reacted by just laying there because I will never strike a woman.

She thinks it's alright to just hang out with her friends and blow all of her money just because she can. But I am not allowed to hang out with mine without getting bitched at, threated, or broken up with.

What the HELL am I supposed to do?

And no she is not one of those rare "awesome" girlfriends that love cars and support you, she is the exact opposite.

I need some advice... BAD.

EDIT: I also forgot to add in that the my Saab she drives is MY car and it's in my dad's name and she thinks it's alright to take it out for a spin whenever she gets mad.

I've tried talking to her about all of this but she's too damn stubborn and will not listen to anyone.

WOW. extremem opposite of my girl. sounds bout as controllin as my friends girl (i never see him anymore). i'd just leave her dude. she wont be able to lead a half decent life blowin all her money and none of yours to catch her. plus you could probly fight for custody of your daughter. you dont want your lil girl seein and learnin then turnin out like that.

Yeah man, I know I'm just so confused and mainly just concerned for my daughters sake because I'd probably be a dope head (not saying anything against anyone) or something now with a very screwed up life if she hadn't come into this world and turned my ass around. I turned myself around majorly and got back on the right path months before she was born, but still.

She's great to my daughter, but horrible to me.

Danm bro i have been with my girl now for 18 years and she never turned out like her mother thank god. For your problem bro is you guys are really young and probably have not been together that lang before your daughter came along. Do you love your woman and does she love you or are you guys still together because of your little one because that is what you have to think out would you guys be still together if she was not born. You are in a rough postion bro. If you have family behind you and are ready to make the leap fight for custody and leave your girlfriend bro you never want your baby to see that kinda of abuse between thw 2 of you.

We are truthfully just together because of our daughter. She says that's not why she's with me but I would not be with her if it wasn't for my little girl. I have plenty of family behind me, even most of her family is behind of me because I do more diaper changings and feedings than she does. It's pathetic man.

EDIT: Not saying that I dislike changing and feeding my daughter, but seriously 99% of the time I am doing that stuff and being stuck at home not having a life, I'm not allowed to save up for a truck or anything because she doesn't want me to.

I'm gonna go crazy guys.

But are you ready to be a full time parent by your self because with what I read with your schooling you are going to be doing it seems you are moving in the right way. Now the other thing even thou you guys fight alot do you concider your girlfriend a good mother. Also if you got to have your daughter full time custody would you feel safe with her visting your daughter and for that fact if roles were reversed would she be a bitch and try and keep her away from you. I know that when people are together they say that they would never come between they're kids or use them to cause more grief. Would she be the night mare that would haveyou up at night worring if your daughter is safe.

I trust my daughter in her hands 100% but she's definitely going to be a nightmare when it comes to visitation. I'm probably not gonna go for custody until after I'm done schooling. I'll be done in June 2009.

so atleast you can say she is a great moms right.

i think maybe going to school will be the defining moment in yalls relationship. it will give you some time to think about things and it will make her see how things are without you. the problem is that she is still immature and has some growing up to do. kids will make you do that, it just didnt help her like it did you.

What in the HELL did you see in her in the FIRST place?

We could all give you opinions on how to run your life, and I'm agreeing with v8, but I think you already know what to do in your heart. Just listen to it.

...and no I'm not an EMO!

Im almost 20 man, and my bro is 26 with FIVE kids! I know what I could tell you to do, but it depends if you will take us seriously and actually do it.

I care about your little girl more than you, sad to say? Whatever it is, you make sure she don't get the crappy end of the deal between you two and don't let her see you two FIGHT!