Divorce SUCKS!!!

I would try to add my 0.02 but I think you get the general idea already.

Yeah, the kids are number one for me. If you check out my last vid of me draggin', the wife was taking the video and you can hear my youngest daughter (the 18 month old) saying dada. The problem is that the mom and I fight CONSTANTLY. We've already agreed on child support. The shop idea is because it's slightly cheaper then my last place I was renting and it's only about 30 minutes from here. Not worried about the kids coming to stay as we agreed on her having full custody and I can see them whenever. It's not that messy really and we still love each other. Just don't get along at all anymore, even after counseling, church, etc. Even our families think this is better then the fighting we've done. We try to keep it away from the kids, I usually go for long walks or drives. Somehow the kids end up in the middle and I don't feel that's right. That, to me, is WORSE then me only seeing them once in awhile. We seperated before (DawgPimp knows about this one) and I went to Albuquerque. We never got along SO well. We decided that things were better and should try again in a new state. So here we are in Colorado. Things went back to how they were after a few months and I've been trying to make it work... honestly... more then I ever have in the past. No difference and I can't handle the stress anymore. No bueno when you bury yourself in work because you don't want to go home... and that's with my 18 month old (Autumn) who is my world. Sorry for the long post guys, even the wife says I should go to Washington because it's close to Alaska (somewhere I want to visit). I appreciate your inputs. This is by far the second hardest thing I've gone through next to losing our first son. I like rural towns and Spokane is pretty flat from what I hear.

Its unfortunate to hear. Although I'm a man that cannot stand with divorce, I feel IMO that you both will be better off? No judgment cast and nothing to say you guys were'nt meant to be...

Although I certainly 'am glad you both are coming to some sort of compromise and can agree on some terms, it is also a good thing you both want to strive in seeing your kids in a better health.

1 word of advice, that also may be obvious to you, is that no matter where you guys move, theres something that still does'nt change, the two of you. Its not the area, its your clash in personalities.

LOL, nothing is close to Alaska except Alaska. I think Alaska is an awesome place to go if you really want to see some good nature. Other then that its a bit difficult to find some good paying jobs unless you get into construction IMO.

Spokane is no where near rural, and the whole city is basically in a valley. But aside from finding things to do that take money you just need some creativity to enjoy things. Would'nt mind having another minitruckin' brother around here, LOL!

Thanks Hex, yeah we grew apart and it sucks. I'm the same way when it comes to marriage. I believe it should be for life, but sometimes we do it wrong and marry young before we know ourselves let alone another person. The wife just came down a minute ago and said she's sorry and wants to help me move to Washington. She says I need to get to where I'm happy and before we moved here, we considered Spokane (Spo-can, I know lol), but her vet school was here that she wanted to attend. This was a over a year ago when I had my lowered toyota truck and was on ToyotaNation forum. I need to find a place I like. I can't stand Colorado... only moved here for her. Going to Craigslist to see what's up there LOL!

Housing is cheap...

Well, I wonder if she ever heard about Pullman? VERY small town and rural, and not to mention WSU has one of the best vet. schools around!

Hey man, if you seriously are considering moving here at all PM me and I'll see if I can do anythnig to help you out!

Just make sure you have made up your mind!

She knows, Colorado was closer to Arizona though and cheaper for the move. But she knows that Washington, Colorado, Oregon and one more (maybe Viginia?) are the schools to attend. She's set on Colorado, and I'm set on moving. Even figured the budget out. She agrees to let me stay with her as long as I pay child support so I can save my money to make the move. Guess this is looking pretty concrete. Need to talk to my boss about the transfer and I'll let you know. Thanks guys for listening, sometimes it's nice just to have someone to talk to, even if it's just online.

As weird as it is, there is still someone behind this computer screen that indeed cares!

I've never been married and all and cant relate in that fashion, but I certainly know what your kids are going through, since my parents divorced when I was young. Since then though, they are re-married and have been better since.

Hey, I'll be praying for you, and maybe just MAYBE, staying with her when you guys are in this sort of condition may make each other realize your guys' faults and work it out? I'm just being optimistic, and I know you've guys been through alot already, but you never know?

"If you love someone, set them free, but if they come back, keep them."

lol, cheesy, but it was from a poster I saw in my friends bathroom when I was a kid. Its been something I've come to realize and remember to adhere to it.

Well good news! My current boss is transfering me to another store here to finish my training! About another month and I'll be ready for a transfer to Spokane! Now just comes the hard part of finding a cheap place to rent. Looking at the West Riverside Apartments, which i understand are cheap and by the CBD "wireless hot spot". The move is gonna run me about $1200 for the truck and tow equipment and gas. Guess the zuzu stays as is for now LOL, but it's ok because I'm working towards a bigger goal.

Oh, and Hex, thanks. This isn't the first time we've seperated. I have tried everything to make this work that I can think of, only to come to this. We have actually grown apart. It REALLY sucks because she is SO fun when we're not fighting. But the fights everyday I can't handle. I actually have acid reflux (taking Nexium) when we're together. Seperated I don't need it. My doctor says that high stress can trigger it. Don't get me wrong, I will always love her and be a friend as much as I can to her. We just can't live together. I also doubt I'll date anyone for a long time so I can get myself together. That and they have to live with this as I'll NEVER cover it and it's not finished either. A sexy portrait is going under it

Hey man, thats somewhat great news! lol...

I have'nt had to worry about moving and all or looking for a place to live around here but I can tell you where to stay away from! LOL!

Thats definitely sucks, love for another and not being able to have it work out right just tears ya apart, for sure.

Well, I hope you don't get ulcers from all the stress! Pretty bad stuff, really screwed my sister up!

Listen, I'm leavin' work in 2 weeks and will be out of a job for a while so I can do some personal things and all. I should have plenty of time on my hand, so PM me occassionally and LET ME KNOW how you're doing and we could even exchange #'s so when/if you come to Spokane, you WON'T be all alone!

spokane isnt that bad you can go dicks and pick you up a triple whammy..yum yum yum...when you get there you will understand