Divorce SUCKS!!!

So the wife and I got married young and have since grown apart. Typical fights every day and what not. Anyway, so we moved here to Colorado so she could attend school. That didn't happen as the scholorship program she wants requires 1 1/2 or 2 years as a resident. I just put her into a new apartment and am letting my old place go... no need for a three bedroom. Which brings me to my next problem. I don't care for Colorado and she suggests I move somewhere I'll be happy. Hours got cut at work as well. I do have a chance at renting a 3 car garage/shop in the next town for cheap and is VERY close to a job I've been looking at. The shop has an office and a "break" room that could be used as a bedroom, which the owners don't care about.

That brings me here. Should I stay, rent the garage, take the new job and go from there? Or should I go, move to a new state, start a new life? I was thinking Washington if I do move. I was in Oregon/Washington for a couple weeks and loved it. Whadya think people. Stay or go?

All I can say is ... Love is grand, divorce is 45

Honestly, do what makes you happy, living in a shop starts to suck after a while but if it only takes a little while to get back on yer feet and running, i'd say go for it.

Thats a tough situation and all I can say is think of your kids man, Whatever you think is best for them is what you gotta do. good luck and Im sorry to hear about the seperation

yeh im thinkin about the kids if you have any.






-justin

Kids first man. I've read you have an 18 month old. I know for sure that if I was in a situation like you, the least of my concerns would be a shop or anything, I'd be focused on my child and how you would deal with being away from him/her and all that. I'm positive I'd go crazy without being able to see my daughter.

Definitely think of the kids, they are the wee ones who will suffer from this ordeal the most. They deserve your love more than anything else.

Firstly, see if that job of yours your looking at is going to hire you 100% guaranteed! It sucks to buy a place and not have that job to go with it because of relying on empty promises!

And as far as living in, "The great Northwest", choose wise! I live here in Spokane and its the 2nd biggest city in Washington and is completely diff. than Seattle. If you can handle the lifestyle of Seattle, then go for it. The economy is 100% diff. than Spokane. You could also go to a smaller town somewhere as well that would be close to Seattle..

Not a whole too lot in Spokane, but it does'nt have traffic like Seattle and it does'nt take too much to get somewhere. The cost of living is alot cheaper than Seattle. We have like over 100 lakes in this area withing like 50-75 miles? Its CRAZY! You can also drive to many other cities in the area that are no more than an hour away!

Possibilities are endless! As for Oregon, the biggest one that comes to mind is Portland. I've been told that it is ALOT bigger than Seattle but not as bad as far as population crowding.. Tons of stuff to do in Portland, and the coast is'nt very far from it as well!

Sorry, I didn't realize you got kids. I'd have to stay close to my little guy. Like was said before, make sure you have security for a job and such no matter where you are going. But yeah, I'm all about the kids first.

deff. the kids but if you do move portland sucks cops are dicks they are the sole reason i moved from there and spokane is on eof the most boring places on the face of the f-ing earth no offense to anyone that live there.

deff. the kids but if you do move portland sucks cops are dicks they are the sole reason i moved from there and spokane is on eof the most boring places on the face of the f-ing earth no offense to anyone that live there. i live in bellevue and i love it there so much stuff to do and yes the cost of living is more expensive but the rate is also ALOT higher than eastern wash.

KIDS KIDS KIDS... Definetly no on the shop. DFS or whatever they are called will not allow the kids to visit you at a "shop" for the weekend. If you don't want to pay out the rear and be able to see your kids get a stable living environment and a stable job. Ultimatly the decision is yours but remember your descisions directly effect the childrens life. Good luck man and if you ever need to talk.... we are all here on Bscene. I have been thru a nasty nasty divorce and have since remarried and am really happy so I know both spectrums of the situation.