My turn for the drama!

I'll make this the longer version of the story as it will better determine what you would do in my situation...

First of all, I'd like to say I'm a Christian man. Now, to some of you that means nothing. To me, that means I live my life like the bible tells you. Keep that in mind, as I'm not someone who is going to go out and be an antagonist.

Okay, so, it all starts back when my sister met this guy when I was like 16. Before I became a Christian, I was a pot smoker and party'er, etc...

He dated my sister for a while and after a while he was diff. He became controlling etc. and hes mentally abusive. Because I'll be damned he ever harms my sister.

She broke up with him eventually. I let her make her own decisions in life and I'm there when she needs my help. One day though, he followed her through Spokane and ended up downtown at our courthouse. She got out of her car and was yelling for someone to help her and he was subdued by police.

Thereafter, he was admitted to the hospital for an overnight stay to be diagnosed for something of the likes of being crazy! But one night is not long enough to figure out is someone is crazy.

As you should know, crazy people are smart enough to act normal and just become looney the next. You know...

So, sometime thereafter, he got worse and almost OD'd on what I think was Oxycontin. He ended up in the hospital, and stayed in there for not only almost od'ing but also because he was on the verge of dying from being so thin.

Hes a skin and bone kind of guy. My family had the nerve to look all through what he had done to us and my sister. What seemed as though we got through to him, and changed his life to know who was Jesus Christ.

Now, for the time being after, it all seemed so as though he really was changed. If some of you recall, he was the guy that had the Cadillac I fixed. As he wrecked it into a pole when he od'd. I did that for him for FREE!

When he got out of the hospital, my sister and him dated again. I'd say for like oh, 8 months? At the end though, he became his old self. I've been there for my sister through it all and only offering advice to her. She does see it in my perspective and therefore one night called him and broke it off.

That was 4 months ago. Since then he has pulled some UNBELIEVABLE stuff.

Hes everything short of physicaly abusing my sister. NOW, she does not even see him since they broke up. At first he thought she was seeing someone else. I got the GMC truck and he thought it was a boyfriend of hers.

To name some stuff:
1. He'll drive by our house ever so often
2. He will text her EVERYDAY
3. He attended our church and new hes using the church to alienate our family. Although, its not working.
4. Hes threatened our family.
5. And to be specific, he left a CD on my dads truck one day with the words, "Fuck you" scratched into it.

NOW, I have warned him and I told him that he WILL NOT threaten my family and jeapordize my family's well-being.

I have clearly let it be known I WILL take action if necessary.

Heres the unfortunate thing. Despite the very obscene texts he leaves on my sisters phone and all the things he's pulled, my sister was DENIED a restraining order! CANY YOU BELIEVE IT!?

Its really sad. As the JUSTICE SYSTEM is not doing SQUAT and taking any legal action from keeping us from my family.

Apparently he's even got a new girlfriend (God help her), and she left a nasty voicemail on my sisters phone telling her she is fixing to get f'ed up.

Yes, my sister HAS changed her number already and he got the number. So thats a no-go. My sister has even moved out of the house to her friends house and she then had to move out of her friends house as he found out where she lived!

So heres the thing. I recently found out that he sent my sister a text message telling her he is looking for ME! HAHA!

Now, being the Christian man I strive to be. I WILL NOT cause a confrontation. Which only leaves the fact that if he wants me he needs to come after me.

Now, guys, I know pretty much what needs to be done. Although, I'm sure you will all agree with me.

I can't protect my sister all the time, but I will do my best to also protect all of my family when I can. The rest is in my faith.

You know why? I know he is armed, with a 9mm. So, I just want to let you guys know whats going on and one other reason why I'm a little stressed out and not able to work on the mini truck as I'm trying to resolve the safety situation.

My sister is going with my Saturday to shoot for her first time as I got a new rifle. I'm going to be teaching her the respect and responsibility and safety of using a firearm.

I've almost got her to the point of desiring to posess a CW. As a .45 ACP speaks loudly.

Unfortunately, I'm only going to be 20 on the 22. Therefore I cannot carry a concealed weapon.

Shotugn with the Slugs is my best chance for defense. I've considered bear mace and even recommended it to my sister if she so desires instead of a handgun.

Now, after all being said, does anyone disagree to the fact that if he confronts me I should not defend my self in a situation?

dayumn bro have your sis save the text's and go reapplie for the orderr

Ehm.. thats what she did. She even told them he is armed and dangerous. Everything she could to get it and make it pretty much obvious hes crazy.

Its because he hasnt directly threatened her life or safety... sigh.

It sucks to hear your family is having these problems. You and your mom and dad seem like super nice people and if your sis was the the girl that walked out of your house the day I was there she seems nice as well. I've been in a simalar situtaion with one of my sisters ex's.

First, a restaining order will do almost nothing if he wants to hurt her or your family a little piece of paper isn't gonna stop him. Second I live my life by "if someone confronts me with a weapon I have a right to protect myself". I keep my short barrel 12 gauge Mossberg loaded with steel shot in my house, I think it would be safer than slugs you wouldn't want a slug travel to far and hurt someone else or their property. I hope it doesnt come to the point that he attempts to hurt you or your family but if you have the means to try your best to protect yourself I will always say do it. By the time someone calls the police he could have hurt everyone around you. I dont disagree will you one bit.

Guns dont kill people. People do. I'm not going to harp on you for wanting to protect yourself and your family, but guns aren't the answer. I'mno religous person by any means, but I can say that if you do have your faith and beliefs, then you know that killing another will not get you anywhere. There are always other means to settle conflicts. I just don't see how carrying a weapon in your ride, in hopes of crossing paths with this guy, will make you feel better. Just remember, i'm not dogging you at all. but guns are not the answer.

Man I wish I had some time to type this to you.... My wife had an ex like this... It was horrible cause I had a kid involved AND my pops is a local police officer. Still hard as hell to get any protection. This dude was so cracked out that he even purposly killed her pom dog that she had gotten while they were together. She was crushed. Anyways becuase we had no video of him or pics of him doing it nothing could be done. He ended up doing like 2 years in the pen due to drugs but the 3 years prior sucked balls. So I feel your pain. Just hang in there. If you would like to discuss some of this shit in private. Trust me i have soo been through this.
Thanks,
Jeff

Dave! Nice to hear from you man! Besides that, yea, your right. My family has done a crap load to support him.

The only objective for a restraining or is that if he violated it as he is even on probation is that if he was caught and taken to court he would face more penalties.

Hes supposed to face jail time and be on a interlock system. His licensed is suspended as well and hes driving around.

I just wanted to come off like I should'nt protect myself, but lol, I'm too educated to not know better... Yea, I'm weird.

I tell my sister, the police are'nt OBLIGATED to protect you. They are paid to protect and serve. Its a service not a right for law enforcement.

Protecting yourself is a RIGHT. And that means taking your own actions because like you said its gonna take a few minutes before the cops arrive.

I'm only practicing my 2nd amendmant right. Your right guns don't always solve the problem. But, I must say its nice to have when its a last resort!

my cousin had someone break into his house. in the middle of the night he heard a window break so he grabbed his unloaded shotty to go look. he found a guy trying to climb in the window over the sink. my cousin had the lights on & holding the shotty and told the guy to go away. he didn't listen & pulled through the window. so my cousin beat the hell out of him with the shotty while his wife called the police. when they got there my cousin had the guy face down on the floor and was sitting on him. lol it was a non lethal use of a weapon that definatly left some memories. but the guy probably has no idea what happened because the way he was acting he was drugged or crazy. i have heard some crazy stuff happen. it really sucks that you are in the middle of your own. hope something works out!

Hey you know where I stand on faith Senior Hex, but let's put it like this... I keep a loaded .38 Snub Special close by. The reason isn't because I don't trust God, but I don't trust people. Guns are NOT an answer, they are a statement. Being that mine IS a snub nose revolver, that statement is BIG. I've never needed it, but if that day comes, the gun stands a better chance to reason with them. There's a reason that even cops carry them and that's because we live in a very unpredictable world. Passion is a crazy thing... ever heard of a crime of passion? I'll keep you in my prayers bro.