ok here is how you do it first here is the link for the isolator by stinger
http://cgi.ebay.com/ebaymotors/STINGER-SR80-HIGH-CURRENT-RELAY-ISOLATOR-4-DUAL-BATTERY_W0QQitemZ140025268687QQihZ004QQcategoryZ38636QQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
just in case it is item #140025268687
now follow the instructions now you can go to auto zone and get a start relay i have the part number at the house when i go home ill get it for ya. the one from autozone is like 9 dollars the stinger will be like 20 . they both work the same
if you get the stinger follow the instuctions if you get the one from autozone let me know and ill walk ya though it.
THERE SHOULDNT BE A WIRE COMING FROM YOUR PRIMARY BATTERY NEG POST TO YOUR SECONDARY NEG POST . if you have pos to pos and neg to neg you just created a 24 volt system and could fry anythin that runs 12v. you should have pos to pos and neg to chasis. any questions i can simplify.