single fathers how?

Edited: 8/14/2006 11:26:28 AM by ithrowsparks90

ok the jist of everything is that me and my once fiance is splitting up! we have one son that is mine he is one and a half years old! when we got together she had a son who was 4 mons old and i am the only daddy he knows! he is three now! i just need some advice on how to get thru and pic myself up! i know there has to be alot of other single father minitruckers out there! like 4uh8ters and ra hunter! i know it can be done i just need some advice and to vent you know!!!

what seems to be the problem between u and the lady? is there no working it out/or compromising on a solution? i come from a broken up family with many kids,and it sucked coming up like that. i now have a 14 month old daughter...my girlfriend and i dont always make the best couple, but its not always about you or your partner when a childs life is envolved.not trying to be dr.phil here...haha, but nothings more important than the child/children.

Hey man, the one thing that I can pass on, and not being a father, but having many friends who are, is don't lose touch with your boys! No matter what, don't second-guess the feelings they have for you, and just remember to never bring any feelings about you and your ex between them, it's nothing they deserve to hear. The best way to deal with an ex, is to be "friend" especially if you have kids. Those are my two cents, and take it for what it's worth!

The best of luck, and I hope all works out for you man!

-JO
NWR

I'm not father, but in the last 8 years I've seen 5 divorces between my two parents. The hardest part for me has been the constant bullshit between my parents. Don't relay it through the kids if you're mad. Don't make the kids deliver child support checks, or relay messages. And listen to the kids. I don't see my dad anymore because he married some bitch I cant stand. He asked my brother and I what we thought before he proposed, and we both said no, and now theres a somewhat distant relationship there.

Thats about all I can say from experience. What I wouldnt do.

I think Jared said some wise words there bro, I've never been in a situation like that, but i do have a 1 year old, so I do know the feelings you have toward your children, just don't put them in the mix

man...I have just went through a NASTY divorce...I'm a DJ...the one from Truck Bash...and she did everything she could to keep my son from me...there are a lot of things to learn on line.

First thing...search yahoo or google for the state guidelines on parenting. these are specific by state. READ it TWICE...know your rights...don't let your emotions get the better of you when you are dealing with her...speak from the head...and use the guidelines to back you up...

thanx for the kind words! well there is no working it out! i am a blue collar type and she wants to be a white collar and we are just to different people i just picked the wrong person to have my son with!! basically we were introduced as friends with more right after her divorce and thing were hot and then pregnant! she says shes not going to keep the boys from me but can i trust i dont know!also i am going to step up and be the man when i didnt have to be for a son that is not mine and she wants to split i think piss on her!