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AHHHHH crazy boys! why me!?

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tiffany avatar
tiffany   +1y
Sorry I have to rant and rave here but I know alot of people on the other sites that I really just dont feel like getting shit from! although Im sure they will find this one day, but by then I wont care! So why is it that lately every male that I become friends with automatically thinks they are in love with me. I never thought that I would get tired of hearing people say I love you! I swear. I hate those words! I have become close with about 5 guys. Not like relationship but just hang out, best buds kind of thing and all of them know exactly what my situation is (not wanting to be in a relationship and being a boy hater for now!) but yet they proceed to tell me that they like me or that they even love me! Its sooo annoying. I just want friendships and they all want more! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I wish they would all just keep it to themselves! When I wanna here I like you or I love you they dont say it but when I dont want anything more then friendships they are all over it like flies on shit! Why are boys so stupid?!

*phew I feel a little bit better!*
spngr311 avatar
spngr311   +1y
Let me guess, none of these guys have g/f's, and you prefer guy friends because you don't get along with girls?

You're an unattached girl who owns a truck - why do you think that this happens?

You also get close to guys. What did you think would happen? As long as a guy is not getting it from somewhere else, no straight guy is going to listen to your problems, or be a really close friend if they don't want something in return.

You have to be the one to make sure you don't get too close - stay in control of the situation, only way you'll keep from ranting and raving.
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reflectorcollectin_ranger   +1y
maybe you make yourself seem to available to them?, maybe you come across as being interested in them?, possibly you put out signals to them?
its hard to believe they all just fell in love with you, and you did nothing to put the slightest of ideas in their head.
tiffany avatar
tiffany   +1y
Maybe im myself and that is good enough for them!?! Its not like it happened in like a day or two I have built relationships with some of these people and thought of them nothing more than friends. I do admit to flirting alot with one but to me it was just playful and meant nothing and I thought it meant nothing to him too. I dated his best friend so I thought he knew it was nothing but a friendship! I just am tired of losing friends over this stuff. Its like once I say I only want to be friends they get all pissed and dont want to be friends anymore. They say its too hard to be JUST friends with me but you know I think you are right...I think they only want something in return for being my friend so fuck them! lol
daweezi avatar
daweezi   +1y
ya also gotta realize sometimes when u get to being real close to someone of the opposite sex as a best friend, you cant help but falling for them...personally ive been guilty of it before and have lost a friendship over it, but that wasnt due to lack of interest from the girl...thats a whole other story tho, but yea sometimes u cant help fallin for someone you know very well but it does seem like 5 guys is a little excessive and coincidental
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tiger   +1y
We, as guys, when a female makes it seems she is interested in any amount, will take that idea and run with it. If you like to hang out with them, have fun with them, and tell them so, usually we'll take that to mean more then what you want it to mean. Guys at this age are horny bastards whoes primary concern is getting some, and if you make yourself seem available to them, they will try to take matter if you told them your situation. We don't listen, cause we don't care.

However, if they are really your friends and not just wanting more, they will still be your friends even after you tell them you aren't interested. Sometimes we guys will get into a tough spot and confuse lust and love. I doubt any of those guys are in love, probably just in lust.

On a personal note, I have a very good female friend that I care a great deal for, would do almost anything for her. Shes knows it, and feels much the same way about me. But we've never done anything to put the friend ship at risk, because frankly, having her as just a friend and always wondering "what if" is better then not having her at all.
daweezi avatar
daweezi   +1y

well said...but not all guys our age or horny bastards...just most
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spngr311   +1y

Pretty much sums it up.
tiffany avatar
tiffany   +1y

Well I have a few responces to that:
i know unfortunately
that sucks
i hope so
thats sooo sweet of you!

yeah talk about mixed emotions!
yeah not all guys suck just most! bahahahahaha
baha avatar
baha   +1y
I realy don't know you so I can't say, but I do know that alot of girls are just flirty and a big flirt by nature and they can't help it and they usually have this problem that your having.